I don't really wanna be this way, but there's little I can do otherwise.
I don't mind at all dealing with someone who has trouble with English.
I welcome all walks of people. But if someone comes to me with a request (as on: not a commission) and either their English is too poor for me to understand or they seem to be talking in such a way that we have too hard a time communicating, then I'm going to have to call it off automatically. There's a lot of effort to understand someone before I do this, and yes if it becomes too much a problem with a commission, I won't take the commission either.
I feel badly, especially since I have the patience and all, it's just a matter of a few things. Time, interest, priorities (usually: pay), personal connection (friend/stranger)...
And then there's my own mental health. We all have it, and while I have all the functions necessary to handle mere miscommunication it's a matter of "do I feel like wasting any further stress on this, however minimal it really is-?" And after so long, the answer becomes "no. I could do it, but man, I have other things I'd rather be doing..." ... and some days, all the stress counts. Thankfully, those are rare.
But this last year has taught me that I really am changing and I really do need to take better care of my new self. I can't be arrogant about what I put myself through, at least not until I get the hang of this "new self" setup/thing/whatthefuckeveritis. Just because it's small and I really don't feel that it's taken a toll on me doesn't mean it hasn't. I really need to get used to this.
The last few days someone's wanted me to collab with them on a NSFW comic they want to make. No problem, I can do NSFW. This person is;
-new to dA
-not a watcher
I was willing to hear them out, but a collab with a stranger is almost 100% out. They'd have to have one interesting story to tell to interest me, so I asked for the details. They kept emphasizing "it's NSFW" instead of just telling me the plot, which kinda said to me that it's just a cheap porn comic instead of anything decently written or with an attempt at plot. Yeah, it's actually kinda creepy drawing up some stranger's sexual fantasies for free, even when the sexual fantasies aren't creepy, themselves. They can be totally vanilla and cuddly.
The "free" part makes it feel like I'm playing part in them in a personal way, where being paid would put up a barrier of professionalism between any personal part of me and the work itself. If it was for a friend, then there's the boundaries in that. Friendship sets up the foundation "it's nothing creepy, it's a gift for a friend/they won't take it the wrong way" as well as already having comfort zones established with that person. And, of course, anything sexual automatically is of personal nature, so yeah, not every
friend is one you'd exactly feel fine drawing giftporn for, lol!
Anyway, there just seemed to be a lot of "failure to communicate"* and there would be very little point in continuing further. I specifically told them "In light of the continuous communication difficulties, I don't think we're going to be able to collaborate on any kind of project at all. I'm sorry. I hope you find an artist or something else in life that makes you happy.
Have a nice day. -Hal" The communication difficulties continued in their failure to understand that I was declining their collab request, and even further as they then thought to ask for an MLP picture which they did not specify in nature. Yeah--I just told them that we couldn't work on ANYTHING together and they again wanted to work with me. But they didn't say "collab" or "request", so since my MLPs have been commissions lately, I linked them to my commission prices and they got feverish with me about it not being commission.
The poor communication continued, but you get the point.
* I don't usually use that term for these things, because that scene from the movie the quote came from was of such a nature that it's really not about "failure to communicate," lol.
If it had become a commission, I'd have made the extra effort to create more clear understandings, but there still would have been a limit to it. However, under the circumstances, it just wouldn't have worked out. They couldn't even understand me saying "it won't work", lol. It didn't so much seem like they didn't speak decent English but rather that they were going about it lazily (and after the conversation continued, it seems English is their mother tongue). I can understand if they're having difficulty because of some mental health conditions, but then they have to be understanding of others who they're asking free art from and have difficulty communicating with.
I have a right as an artist to turn down any stranger who comes up and says something like "spend your effort on my ideas for free with no present of future reward because I asked you to." Not to mention that I have it ON MY PROFILE
that I don't do requests.
I'll listen to an idea that might be fun, but yeah, when you disregard even checking the profile you automatically disrespect the artist. But, we're not assholes, we can understand that maybe you looked and didn't see that part. No one's perfect. However, whether it's there or not, asking for free art, and something with a lot of effort involved like a comic, yeah, artist has the right so say "ohhh.... uh, no thanks."